If you are returning to work after the delivery, you have probably thought about what types of arrangements will be needed for childcare. Selecting a daycare provider and deciding when to return to work can be a difficult decision, and you (along with your partner and your doctor) should feel comfortable with whatever decision is made.
Making the transition from maternity leave back to your job can be hard -- and you may feel a variety of emotions. You have to adapt to a schedule that is new and full of challenges that you have not faced before. Even for experienced mothers, juggling a new baby and work requires careful planning.
You may have decided to return to work because of long-term career goals, immediate financial needs, or other reasons. Good family communication is key to helping alleviate any anxiety or guilt feelings and for working together through this next set of changes.
In deciding when to return to work, here are just a few of the questions that may run through your mind:
It is normal to feel guilt and anxiety about separating from your infant. Talk with your partner, employer, caregiver, and doctor about possible solutions that will help you to ease back into the work force.
Here are some ways to help you ease into the transition:
During this period of adjustment, it is also important to make time for yourself and "alone time" with your partner. Arrange for this time by asking family members, friends, or baby-sitters to watch your baby. You might consider going to the movies, exercising, shopping, or just relaxing at home. Remember, this is a new challenge for even an experienced mother, and you must take time to rejuvenate yourself to facilitate a healthy and happy environment for your whole family.
It is important to select a daycare facility that is highly qualified, makes you feel comfortable, and gives you peace of mind. Take time to thoroughly research the various daycare options available.
Many daycares have information that you can take home or websites that you can visit. Talk with friends, neighbors, or relatives to get possible recommendations. Visit your top three selections, and talk to your child's potential caregiver, interview other parents, and ask for references.
Some families find it easier if the daycare is close to their home or their workplace. However, there are many other factors to consider when evaluating a daycare, so the proximity alone should not be the only consideration. Other considerations are:
Depending on where you live, it may be difficult to find a good daycare center with a spot available for your child. Start planning for childcare well in advance of when you plan to return to work. In some cases, families put their names on waiting lists as soon as they discover they are pregnant!
The decisions that you face about daycare and returning to work are challenging, but they are not impossible! Take your time, plan ahead, and solicit help from people you trust. The first couple of weeks may be difficult, but you and your new addition will adapt to the adjustments and find a pattern that works for your family!
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